信任

(Dad to his daughter)"You remember the first time you went in the pool? ... You probably don't. You were two. Peter was scared to death the first time he went in. He screamed and cried so much. He didn't stop...Not you. You were fearless... You were amazing. You came in with me and almost immediately started laughing...and playing and splashing around. You just had this confidence. It wasn't just the pool...you just had this---trust--- in things, people, and the world.It was who you are. No fear...God I loved it. I was so proud of you... I envied it. And I was so afraid that you'd lose it as you grew up. That confidence. That faith. But you didn't. And then I failed you... It was my job to make sure you didn't lose it. To keep you safe. What am I if I can't protect you? And to see you lose that confidence, to see you question yourself. That the idea would even occur to you , to want to hurt yourself. Or for you to think for one minute, that you weren’t as beautiful.”

女孩子不管多少岁都是一个需要信任和理解的生物，她就算天生强大独立，内心也只会更柔软更渴望被关爱和懂得。安妮只是恰好信任错了人，直到后来她还一心担心坏人希望他没事儿。爱，那么简单吗小安妮。不过不管事后事前父母怎样处理的，很庆幸她有一对真正爱她的父母，父亲最后这段话让女孩子体会到自己是被爱的。她其实只不过渴求温暖和被爱。

在Lens上我看到有一期专门访问恋童这类人，有的人完全构不成犯罪也不会涉及道德。其实我觉得每一种人生都不容易，我们过了自己的所以无法去理解别人的。他们有百分之七十儿童时期有过阴影所以成年后会有这种犯罪的怪癖，是否应该反思社会和家庭体制做得到不到位。我只能以一个旁观者的角度客观地评价，我唯一能做的就是给身边的人最多的温暖和关爱。

安妮，祝你幸福。

「Sometimes when you can't physically escape from a situation where you feel frightened or threatened... you find a way to remove or distance yourself psychologically. It's a way of protecting yourself.」


「We can't control what happens to us or our loved ones. People get hurt. There's only so much we can do to protect ourselves, our children. The only thing we can do is we can be there for each other when we do fall down, to pick each other up.」


「Why are you down here when you should be up there with her? You think finding this guy is more important that it's gonna make her better?」



「How could you do that to me?
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I'm really sorry.
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You're sorry? Gee, Dad, thanks. That mskes everything so much better.
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I lost my temper. I don't know what else to say. I'm sorry.
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Don't you get it? There's nothing anybody can say. My life is ruined.
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No, it's not ruined. We're going through a tough time but your life's not ruined.
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We're going through a tough time? We didn't get raped. We're not the laughingstock of New Trier. I am! I got raped. Not you!
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I know that.
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Nothing's ever gonna be the same. I know that. But, please, can you please stop reminding me of it every second?」



「You were fearless. You were amazing. Came in with me and almost immediately started laughing and playing and splashing around. You just had this confidence. It wasn't just swimming, you just had this trust in things, people, the world. It was who you were. No fear. God, I loved that. I was so proud of it. I envied it. And I was so afraid that you'd lose it as you grew up, that confidence, that faith, but you didn't. And then I failed you. It was my job to make sure you didn't lose it, to keep you safe. What am I if I can't protect you? And to see you lose that confidence, to see you question yourself, that the idea would even occur to you to want to hurt yourself, or for you to think for one minute that you weren't as beautiful. I don't know if you can ever forgive me, Annie. I really don't know if you should, but I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I love you so much.」

片中当父母的固然有监护甚至监管不到位的地方，但我觉得其父母这个角色的责任算是比较小的，如片中父母的开明、宽容，即使在如今也是很少有的，片中女儿的角色买了露脐装，父母并未严厉阻止；女儿说网上认识了查理，父母也未大动干戈审查此人来龙去脉，而是了解了一些基本的信息（就这一点父母的负责与否值得商榷，毕竟片中女儿角色十四岁，问太多引起抵触情绪，问也不问也太不负责，所以我觉得剧本很好，很写实）。
我同意大部分的责任在于女儿这个角色，但我觉得不能抛开环境因素不谈。犹如我们讲家教问题。每个人面对家庭问题有不同的处理方法，剧本中父亲与母亲的处理方式是典型。
母亲宽容，认为女儿没有过错，事情发生了最重要的是支持与鼓励（和那个无能的心理创伤治疗师一般，对症要下药，而我只看到心理医师不断的淳淳诱导女儿说出自己的想法，算是取得了“受害者”的信任，却未能进一步帮助一个不懂事理的未成年人弄清自身认知的不足与其自身应负的责任。）
父亲的角色则是典型的暴怒和仇恨，我觉得这个角色在片中面对女儿和妻子时的多次妥协有点无法认同（起码40%无法认同）。父亲即恨自己未能保护好家庭成员，又恨女儿在事情发生后仍在为施暴者辩护；进一步的父亲这个角色把对自己的恨与对女儿的愧疚混淆到一起，就是说摊下了全部责任，我看片的时候忍不住在设想各个场景的对话。
“病急需猛药”，这种事情发生后一味的理解、宽容、支持并未能使女儿的角色更早醒悟，早一点说出“这种事情也有你自己的责任，在见面后觉得上当就该离开时不离开，在进入对方车前就不该上去，在汽车旅馆时就该呼救甚至跑掉，而不是全部责怪自己的家人不理解你，不是责怪自己的朋友在自己被侵犯时报告警察，不是在家庭聚会的餐桌上把哥哥正常交往女友与否和自己被年过35的人诱奸混淆起来。”的话，即使会伤害女儿，但当头棒喝，长痛不如短痛，说出来、说清楚，总比闷在那儿好。
可惜父亲的角色只是木讷的愣在了那里，可惜母亲的角色在把父亲搜集资料时一股脑儿扫到地上一味责怪父亲没能同女儿沟通（事实上面对这种情况任谁都沟通不能）时，父亲的角色又一次沉默，好似再一次义无反顾的抗下了责任。
但无论如何角色的设置是很典型、符合逻辑的，情感冲突也表现得很写实，诱奸犯的说服力太过于强大是个小bug（现在的孩子哪有这么容易被拐到motel！切~除非下药(⊙_⊙)
ross很有才~呵呵

ross大哥的导演作品，不错，在于他没有把这个故事拍成老套的调查性事件，而是聚焦于一个家庭，更准备的说是一对父女面对未成年人性侵犯之后的动作和心理变迁！
我最喜欢的两段台词，一是欧文找到心理医生，说他保护不了女儿，医生对他说，你不可能保护她一辈子，你总有不在她身边的时候，作为爱她的人，你需要做的只是在她需要你的时候在她的身边支持她就够了！还有就是最后欧文和女儿的那段对话，他对女人说，你有着那份自信和信任，对身边的人和事物发自心底的信任，这份信任让我骄傲，甚至让我嫉妒，让你在今后的人生中保持那份信任和自信是我一个父亲的责任，如果我连这点都保护不了你了，我还算什么。如果有一天，哪怕一秒，你怀疑自己是否漂亮----------大哭！
就是上面的这两段解释了父亲看似过激的行为的内心想法，很好，很深入人心！
有人说女儿是不是太蠢了等等的话，首先她还是孩子，想想我们自己吧，十四五岁的时候谁不会做sb的事情，自以为爱上了一个欣赏自己的老男人可以说在普通不过了，后面女儿看到了其他受害者之后在心理医生那边的哭泣难道不能哭到大家的心里去么！
但这部电影也不是完美的，我觉得那个变态的台词就写得不够好，不能让人感到不可抗拒，还有前半部的调子可以更欢快一点，这样才会让后面的支离破碎更深入人心！

    从一个性侵案例作为切入点讲述了一个相互信任的故事，比较写实，并未走孤胆暴力复仇的俗套路线，但也没有能惩戒坏人，这应该就是现实世界吧，即使遭受苦难，即使不完美，还是要继续生活下去。
    看似美好的家庭，其实已经存在隐患，安妮一直受到家庭过多保护，她从小对外界就怀有较强的信任感，对自身也就充满自信。处于青春期成长过程中的她，在外界女同学的影响和自身本能的驱使，对性世界有着好奇和朦胧之感，而女主和家人缺乏真正的交流（双方都有责任），无法获得理解和指引，与其说她不认同学校的主流群体，还不如说在学校得不到主流认同，在大家都有男女交往时，她却连个男友都没有一切，她需要得到认同，但事情却不是，一向自信的她开始对自身产生疑惑，而在骗子查理网聊中得到了认可，因此才会在网聊中被一骗再骗，明知被骗也心甘情愿。
    如果说性侵事件是痛苦的，那么之后的余波则是更为痛苦的。很多人是带有有色眼镜来看的，包括安妮父亲也对自己女儿产生了信任危机，沉迷于报仇的怒火中不能自拔，忽略了女儿的感受。而安妮对自身的盲目自信或者说存在着一种自我欺骗和麻痹在环境、家人和事实逐步发展下一步步走向崩溃，这个家庭都在黑暗的漩涡里越陷越深。最后，父女都重新审视了自己，之间重拾信任。
    当伤害已经发生，只有相互信任和扶持，我们走出黑暗，这应该也是影片的主旨。
    PS:对于一个未成年的女孩被性侵事件的发展过程，还是感觉有些别扭，因为这个过程不是突发，而是明显的诱骗，安妮即使受到保护也不可能生活在真空中，导演还是有刻意的痕迹吧。